My Wobbly Belly


What? Weight? Really? This is a Wicked Wednesday prompt?

Yes. It is.

Whether you use this prompt to share a personal story or experience, or whether you use it for erotic fiction is all up to you

I am overweight and have been for many years. I am now at the heaviest I have ever been. I eat very healthily, I exercise moderately every day, yet I find it very difficult to lose any weight.  My main problem area is my belly. I love to use the terms voluptuous and curvaceous to describe myself, as they suggest that I am not slim, but are suitably vague as to my precise body size. However, the reality is that I have a flabby, wobbly belly. Someone who saw me naked for the first time said ‘you’re OK everywhere else, but your tummy is a bit big’. I didn’t take offence at this comment, as they were being honest. And they were absolutely right. My tummy is too big.

Readers of this blog and followers on Twitter will know that I post erotic pictures of myself. This is, among other reasons,  to increase my body confidence and to make me feel attractive and desirable despite being overweight. The support from people has been overwhelming and I have received so many amazing and positive comments as a result of showing my boobs, bum and wobbly belly.

I frequently wonder if men suffer the same angst as women regarding their bodies and whether they worry what others think of their body shape. I have heard men commenting on the fact that they think they are too fat and need to lose weight, but I always get the impression that men are more accepting of their weight and it is not such a cause of stress and worry like it is for many women, including myself.

Over the last couple of years, I have grown more confident with my appearance and have learned to accept my body, flab and all. A few weeks ago, I went to a place where nudity was the norm. However, I was a little apprehensive about stripping off,  purely because I didn’t want to draw attention to my flabby belly.  I had no idea how many other people, male or female, would be in attendance and, as it turned out, I was the only female present and was in the company of around eight to ten men.

The first thing I noticed  was, apart from one or two slim guys, the rest were all quite fleshy; men of all ages with nice rounded bellies. They didn’t seem worried or concerned about their physique and all seemed quite at ease with themselves. In fact, I doubt that any of them looked at me and thought ‘I wonder if she thinks I am fat’!  I genuinely love to see a fleshy, squishy body on a man but, even after all of the positive comments I have received on this blog and on Twitter, I am still amazed that people could possibly think in the same way about my body.

Judging by the attention and compliments  I received on this particular occasion, it appears that my concerns over my belly that day were quite unfounded. Having a wobbly belly does not detract from a person’s desirability, as I have found out in real life and online. But, I would still like mine to be a bit smaller and less wobbly. Please.


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A Rant About ‘Obesity’



I recently decided to check my body mass index (BMI) on the NHS website. Apparently, I am considered obese as my BMI is 32.9. I am quite heavy and I am of average height for a woman, so I was not surprised by this score. It’s recommended that I should be eating between 1731-2225 calories per day. In reality I would be surprised if I did actually consume more than the maximum recommendation of 2225. I would love to be in the region of 10 stone and 6 pounds, the maximum ideal weight for my height, but I doubt that is ever going to happen again.

I know I am overweight, but…

I eat very healthily.

I don’t like high-fat food such as pastry, burgers and sausages.

I drink around 8 units of alcohol a week.

I eat lots of chicken, fish, fruit and veg.

I love cheese, but rarely eat, or buy it. I consider it a rare   treat.

I don’t have large meals.

I only use extra-virgin olive oil, in small quantities, to cook with.

I love puddings and chocolate, but I am very careful to limit these to occasional treats.

I generally don’t snack in between meals other than on fruit, or an occasional low-calorie biscuit.

I walk between 3 and 5 miles each day, at a relatively fast pace. I should probably do more vigorous exercise.

I wear size 14 jeans and leggings.

My top half is generally a size 18 because of accommodating my boobs!

I have normal blood pressure and cholesterol readings

I don’t smoke and never have.

I have no aches and pains or joint problems, but I do suffer from PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome), which can make weight easy to gain, but difficult to lose.

On my last visit for an over-40 health check, the practice nurse was surprised at my weight and didn’t think I looked as heavy as I was. However, I was pleased that she did not seem unduly concerned about it either.

I do have a fat belly area, and always have had, but my legs, bum and hips are not too troublesome.

I was interested to listen to Dr Malcolm Kendrick on the Steve Wright show on Radio 2 last week. He was talking about health myths, and it is interesting to hear there is no medical study to support that a BMI over 30 defines a person as obese. Apparently, a 650 page report from a World Health Organisation meeting in 1995, documented that:

‘the reason why we decided that a BMI of greater than 30 is defined as obesity is largely arbitrary’.

It was also interesting to hear that the evidence for the five portions of fruit and veg a day rule is non-existent. Someone, somewhere once decided this should be a guideline.

Clip from the Steve Wright show

Basically, the message from Dr Kendrick is, do what makes you happy, but be sensible and do some exercise. Which, of course, is all common sense.

I am finally learning to accept my body shape. If I am considered as obese by an arbitrary rating system, so be it. I know I lead a relatively healthy lifestyle and don’t abuse my body. We are all individuals, with differing factors affecting our bodies and health, and the labels attached to us by society aren’t always justified.