Music and My First Love


Is there a tune or style of music that gets your juices flowing? Is there an artist who gets your heart pumping, toe tapping, and heat rising?
Time to share a story or comment of the sensuality caused by those opening notes as they slide up and penetrate your ears.

For a  few months now, I have been thinking back to my first boyfriend and how he used to write to me a couple of times a week.  I  mentioned  him in a previous Wicked Wednesday post,  We lived in the same town, but only used to see each other at weekends, so we both used to write to each other during the week.  Devouring his handwritten letters after returning from college was the highlight of my day and my heart leapt each time I saw there was a letter waiting for me. The letters were very distinct as he used coloured envelopes and often put heart-shaped stickers on the front and rear. Recalling his passionate words has led me to remember the mix cassette tape that he compiled for me. He coloured the insert card in with royal blue felt-tipped pen and also drew two entwined red hearts with our names written on. Sadly, I destroyed every letter and memento from the relationship and specifically remember pulling the tape out of the cassette in a frenzy.  I was the one who ended the relationship and at the time, getting rid of every trace of him seemed logical to my nineteen year old brain. Now, nearly thirty years later, the thought of all those precious memories ending up in the bin makes me incredibly sad.

I don’t remember many of the songs on the tape, but I do recall I Want To Make It With You by David Gates and Bread. Having just checked I had the correct song title, I have also been reminded of If and Everything I Own, also by Bread. I had completely forgotten that they featured on the tape and listening to them has made me quite emotional.  The only other song I recall was quite sombre and about a man deeply in love with a woman called Honey who was dying. I have never remembered the artist or song title, but an internet search has revealed it is Honey by Bobby Goldsboro. So, not the most cheery of songs and not my choice of music nowadays, but all full of deep emotion and perfect for first loves to express their complex feelings.

Back to the present time and to music that I find sensual and spine-tingling…

I had anticipated including half a dozen or so of my favourite tracks, but on browsing though my Spotify playlist, I realised that this was impossible.

So, here is my long shortlist for my perfect passionate soundtrack…

Just Another Day – Jon Secada

Higher Love – Steve Winwood

The above two tracks are probably my favourite tracks on this list and are both incredibly powerful in terms of music and lyrics.

More Than This – Roxy Music

Dance Away – Roxy Music

Avalon – Roxy Music

Jealous Guy  – Roxy Music

I have to say that Bryan Ferry has the sexiest voice ever and has me swooning and weak-kneed every time I hear his music!

Go Your Own Way – Fleetwood Mac

Summer of 69 – Bryan Adams

Run To You – Bryan Adams

You Do Something To Me – Paul Weller

Sultans Of Swing – Dire Straits

Follow You, Follow Me – Genesis

Invisible Touch – Genesis

Black Velvet – Alannah Myles

Me & Tennessee – Tim McGraw

Boys of Summer – Don Henley

You’re The Voice – John Farnham

Kiss The Rain – Billie Myers

All Night Long and Running With The Night – Lionel Richie

 Stars – Simply Red

Every Breath You Take – The Police


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F4TF#4: What is Sexy?


What is sexy? Is it appearance, is it an attitude, or is it just some unfathomable quality that you see in someone?

As human beings, we are unique. We have differing views and opinions in life, including what we consider to be sexy.  Having sat and thought carefully about what I think is sexy, I believe it applies just as much to appearance, physical acts, attitude, and personal qualities and attributes. Here are some of the things (and people) that I consider to be sexy.

Tall men

Expensive-smelling aftershave and cologne – especially getting a waft as a stranger walks past



The Hairy Bikers

Jersey trunks/boxer shorts

A smile from a stranger

Kindness and consideration for others

Bodily imperfections

Being genuinely interested in the other person and what they have to say

Men with grey hair

A nice bottom

Running my hand the wrong way over very short clipped/shaved hair

Watching a man put a condom on or doing it for him

Curvaceous and voluptuous women


Nails being run across my back or doing the same to someone

Men with a nice rounded belly

Being respectful

Men in motorcycle leathers

Mr Bates, the valet, from Downton Abbey


Greg Davies

Quiet determination


Men who enjoy wearing women’s knickers

Eye contact


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Wicked Wednesday #3: Highlights of 2015


I decided that I would like to write something for this latest prompt of ‘Summarize’, as I have been thinking over the events of 2015 recently.  I am not sure I would class them all as achievements or accomplishments; I think some could be defined as experiences or quite minor events.  But they have all had an effect on my life or provided enjoyment in some way. And they are not all sex-related!

One thing that I like to do is put a lot of detail into things. I have realised that with my blog posts. I like to ensure that all the facts are there and there is a logical flow. Although, no one else will obviously know if any detail is missing, I  know and I like things to be done properly –  I am very conscientious.  I have deliberately written this as a list  to stop me from giving huge amounts of detail!

Highlights of 2015 (in no particular order)

  1. Starting this blog.
  2. Trying to learn and understand WordPress.
  3. Becoming more confident at sharing my thoughts and writing frankly about sex and other life issues.
  4. Getting the confidence to take part in various blogging memes including Sinful Sunday, Boobday and Wicked Wednesday.
  5. Getting my first Wicked Wednesday post picked as one of Rebel’s top 3.
  6. Visiting a naturist spa.
  7. Addressing the issue of lack of sex in my marriage.
  8. Experiencing new sexual partners.
  9. Feeling sexually attractive and desirable.
  10. Experiencing oral sex again after an absence of 20 years. And getting an orgasm!
  11. Plucking up the courage to ask for a Doxy for my birthday.
  12. Reading extensively and gaining a new perspective on the issue of monogamy.
  13. Taking some sexy selfies in public places.
  14. Making some wonderful friends on Twitter.
  15. Experiencing some ‘interesting’ Skype calls with a great Twitter friend on the other side of the world.
  16. Undertaking training for some voluntary work involving public speaking for a charity.
  17. Visiting the V&A museum and Tate Modern for the first time in London.
  18. Undergoing some successful surgical treatment for an eye condition.
  19. Making some new (and good) friends in real life.
  20. Having a successful course of laser hair removal.
  21. Spending enjoyable holidays at the seaside in Norfolk and Dorset.
  22. Seeing an abundance of red squirrels at Brownsea Island in September.
  23. Getting round to replacing my passport, which expired three years ago.

I am slightly irritated that I have not got a nice round number of entries in my list. In 2016 I shall endeavour to keep a journal of positive events to make this task easier next time!

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So, this is my first blog post and, in order for you to find out more about me, here are 20 random facts…

I love polka dots/spots.

My favourite flower is a tulip.

I have a dry and sarcastic sense of humour, which not everyone appreciates.

My favourite colour is red.

I am not very self-confident.

I detest smoking.

I am quick-witted. Usually.

I don’t particularly like, or participate, in any sports.

I am terrified of worms.

I don’t like the wish list culture that has developed on Twitter.

My favourite film is Pulp Fiction.

I hate shellfish.

I would love to live at the seaside.

My favourite food is Thai. Followed closely by roast lamb.

I like to push my boundaries and try new experiences.

I am obsessive about eating my 5 a day; it’s often more.

I am rarely life and soul of the party, but prefer to sit back and observe when in a group of people.

I have an excellent memory.

One of my favourite songs is Higher Love by Steve  Winwood.

I love Twitter!